'The soul is covered by a thousand veils' (H.I. Khan) - and what has that got to do with your style?

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We are all born perfect! Look at any baby, they love themselves. They are fascinated by their hands and fingers and toes and they absolutely light up every time they see themselves in the mirror. When was the last time you lit up looking at your reflection in the mirror? So what has happened in the past 20/30 years that made you stop loving yourself completely and unconditionally?

I was watching Oprah’s Super Soul Sunday Facebook show while I was waiting for my daughter to finish cheer leading training. Oprah and her guest were discussing the meaning of this quote in a more existential sense however I realised how relevant it is to the work that I do with my style coaching.

We are all born perfect! Look at any baby, they love themselves. They are fascinated by their hands and fingers and toes and they absolutely light up every time they see themselves in the mirror. When was the last time you lit up looking at your reflection in the mirror? So what has happened in the past 20/30 years that made you stop loving yourself completely and unconditionally?

The answer is- veils! Every negative experience we had growing up added a layer of doubt over our soul and our knowing of who we are. Every single judgemental comment passed by our siblings, or every time a kind meaning aunt remarked that you inherited your mothers large hips or big nose, every time you heard women in your life criticise themselves for being too fat, too tall, not pretty enough…. Each experience like that made you doubt your unconditional acceptance of yourself and clouded your knowing of you.

If you are really struggling with your appearance, if you do not like what you see in the mirror and you find shopping difficult and frustrating you might think that you were born without a fashion sense. But that isn’t true. No one has been born without a fashion sense. You might not be into fashion because you have other interest. You might be  a great graphic designer, chef or a wonderful mum. You do not need to be into fashion in order to be able to dress yourself nice. We dress ourselves every day, its such an integral part of our lives, so no one has been born without an ability to do that. The self-consciousness and unhappiness rise when there is a disconnect and misalignment between who you are on the inside and how you dress yourself on the outside. Even if you are not into fashion, deep down you know YOU! You know who you are, you know how you want to look all you need to do is peel back those veils of untruths and get back in touch with the inner you- whole and perfect!

I encourage you to think about that this week. Every time you catch yourself thinking negative thoughts about yourself, ask yourself why? Where is it coming from? Where did you learn that? Is it still the truth and is it serving you right now? Deep down you still the same, whole, perfect being you were born; all you need to do is unveil her and then build a wardrobe to match this wonderful person within. Getting dress will become easy, effortless and so natural. You will no longer need to fit into a trend or a mould, you will just need to be you.

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