Too tired and uninspired- Not every outfit needs to be Insta worthy
Not every outfit needs to be Insta worthy but it does need to feel good. If you follow these couple steps you will end up with a wardrobe that works for you and on days when you are tired and uninspired, your wardrobe will be there to give you that little boost to get on with the day!
Every week we come on live on FB and post a blog post with easy, realistic style tips for real women. So in the spirit of keeping it real, I thought I will share something quite personal. Yesterday I woke up feeling so tired (my 3-month old baby still won't sleep for more than 2 hours between feeds). I knew I had a really busy day ahead because my older son had very important football trials, I had to get up, get dressed and not only drive him there but be supportive and encouraging while in reality I just wanted to go back to sleep. The thought of getting ready was making me nauseous and I found myself spiraling into my old pattern of thoughts- I have nothing to wear, nothing fits me, nothing looks good on me, why can I not be skinny like other moms, I wish I didn't need to go out... So I told my teenage daughter that I can't think of anything to wear and she said- it's football trials, wear jeans and a jumper- so I did. As I was walking around the house getting ready I was feeling worse and worse. I was feeling down, low on energy and just generally miserable. I knew there was nothing I could do about the lack of sleep but there was something I could do about the way I was feeling about myself. I knew I had to get changed. Obviously I was still too tired and too uninspired to create some amazing outfit so instead I tried to remember what outfits I have worn recently that were warm, comfortable and would be suitable for today and I remembered my knit dress- it's casual, long sleeves and I could wear it with a pair of ankle boots and a parka- warm, comfortable, took me a whole of 30 seconds to put together and made me look so much more put together. It was not the most amazing, trend-setting outfit and I didn't rush to post it on social media, but it did the job, I knew I looked nice, and it gave me that boost I needed to take on the day- back straight, shoulders back, chin up- you cant slump in a mini dress after all :)
The reason I am sharing this with you today is that I realized that I actually haven't felt like I did yesterday morning in a really long time. I spent my 20s resenting my body, not knowing who I am (student/mom, young graduate/wife...) and feeling lost. I had a wardrobe full of clothes but I never had anything to wear. I remember that feeling so clearly. Every day getting dressed seemed like such a chore. Just the thought of getting ready made me want to cancel my plans. Wherever I went I felt awkward and uncomfortable in my own skin. I looked at other women feeling envious of their figures, their clothes, and their confidence. I bought my clothes because they were on sale or because I saw someone else wear it or it looked good on a hanger but nothing I owned went together, a lot of the stuff didn't fit me or didn't look right on me (because they weren't made for my body shape). I spent a decade feeling uncomfortable and missing out on so much enjoyment of life it makes me sad to think about it. When I turned 30 I said enough is enough, I need to start loving myself just the way I am. It has taken me years and a lot of effort to start appreciating my body for what it is (I still wish I was a size or two skinnier but self-development is a process :)), learning how to dress for my body shape, stop looking for approval in others and embracing my own personal style. I am so happy to say that most of the things I have in my wardrobe now can be mixed and matched, most of it fits me well (I still have some baby weight to lose) and even on days like yesterday I could pull something out, put it on, look in the mirror and say to myself- that's nice- and get on with the day feeling good about myself. Yesterday was the kind of day when all our teachings in our videos and blog post come together to reward your effort:
- Know your body shape so you can start appreciating the good features- the more focus you put on your good features the more you will notice them, the better you will feel, the better you will look because beauty comes from within.
- Get clear on what your personal style is- stop chasing trends for the sake of it. Get snobby and ruthless when choosing what you spend your money on- choose what makes you happy and makes you feel good. Stop comparing yourself to your sister, your colleague or some celebrity- it's good to draw inspiration from others but copying others will never look or feel good. Whatever they wear it looks good on them because it suits their shape and their personality if you try to look like someone else by the time you master one look they will have moved on to something else. Their style is effortless for them because it comes from within. You need to do you! And that is the good news, while you cannot be them, they can never be you! Get clear on what makes you happy and feels right and then you will not only look but feel effortlessly beautiful.
And that is it! Not every outfit needs to be Insta worthy but it does need to feel good. If you follow those steps you will end up with a wardrobe that works for you and on days when you are tired and uninspired, your wardrobe will be there to give you that little boost to get on with the day!
Have a lovely day!